• Express your love to your child both physically and verbally in whatever ways are comfortable to the two of you. Hug and kiss your child and tell your child you love her everyday. If your child can read, write her a short note telling her how much you care about her and place the note someplace where she will find it, such as in her lunch box, on her desk, on the mirror in the bathroom, etc.
• Take an interest in your child’s life. Make a habit of asking your child about his day, everyday. Get to know what your child likes to do, who his friends are and what is important to him. Attend events that your child is a part of, whether it be a sporting event, recital, play, etc.
• Listen to your child! One of the most complimentary things anyone can do for another person is to truly listen. Next time your child begins to discuss something, stop what you are doing, make eye contact with your child and focus on what she is saying. Your attention will let your child know how much you respect her and encourage her to be open with you in the future.
• Spend time with your child. Consider taking part in “special play” with your child. This means that you let your child pick an activity and you follow his lead. Try not to make any suggestions, but instead ask your child for directions on how to take part in his activity. Another idea is have dinner together. Cook your child’s favorite meal and invite him to join you in the kitchen and prepare the meal together. Or, the next time your child is watching television, sit down with him and watch the program together. Afterwards talk about the show and discuss any messages the show was conveying as a way to reinforce or clarify what your child took away from the program.
• Focus on the positive! Some days it can be difficult to see what went well, but it’s always there. Even if you and your child had a rough day, try to think of one positive thing she accomplishes each day. Notice what your child is good at and encourage him to take part in more activities that build on her skills and interests. Praise your child for things she does well, and offer helpful suggestions of ways to improve the things she struggles with.

Showing children they are loved and cared for is important everyday of the year, but let Valentine’s Day be a reminder of the importance of sharing the greatest gift we have to give our children…love!

Prevent Child Abuse Wisconsin is a statewide, nonprofit organization that builds community resources, provides training and public awareness, and carries out advocacy activities in order to strengthen child abuse prevention efforts in Wisconsin. Founded in 1978, Prevent Child Abuse Wisconsin is a state chapter of Prevent Child Abuse America. For more information, please call 1-800-CHILDREN or visit www.preventchildabusewi.org.